politics

Men Who Don’t Understand Women

I will admit to having been clueless in the past, but this isn’t a screed about getting friendzoned because I didn’t recognize when a women wasn’t interested or about some missed signals from someone who was.  I am quite happily married so whatever signals were sent, were received, in both directions. I struggle mightily against …

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Old School Morality

Old school morality often makes me laugh. If you look back at something like Aesop’s Fables, you’ll find classic examples of conventional wisdom, some serious racism and sexism and some occasional good advice about not trusting dictators to hold to their word (advice we should surely heed now in dealing with the leaders of places …

writing

Abandoned Projects

It’s funny how often I think about this.  Way less funny how often I do it. I call myself a completist, but the label is a bit of a mistake.  I don’t believe in reading half a book and then abandoning it.  If I’m going to delve into a comic book character or team, I …

writing

Talking To The Dead

I don’t really talk to the dead.  I’m not religious, and therefore don’t really believe in magic or an afterlife.  I do like Neil Degrasse Tyson’s explanation of us being made of stardust, so that in a very real sense, when we die (and technically, while we still live), our atoms disperse and become a …

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Emotions As Guiding Posts

When I was younger, I used to believe it was all about the mind.  That intelligence would win any argument over emotion.  That those who fought with emotion were much more likely to be disturbed or incorrect than those who led with thought. I still believe that, but in a totally different way. In my …

depression, writing

Dead Talker

I’ll admit it.  This was a hard one. Part of the problem with writing is that one can get so identified with characters and themes that one can unconsciously take on parts of the story’s mood without realizing it. With Dead Talker, this was particularly dangerous, given the fact that the whole thing was a …

politics

Do What You Want To Do

Spent the morning catching up on Sex Criminals by Matt Fraction and Chip Zdarsky.  Weirdly, at the same time, Vanilla Sex by Rancid came on, and it reminded me: Do what you want to do. Seriously.  No one should have any say in your sex life or discriminate against you because of it, unless it involves unwilling participants …

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Do Better

The final chapter in the Luther Strode series had a theme: Do better. It feels like I’ve been hearing this a lot lately and it’s reminded me that there are always better ways to do things.  Always better options to explore.  The concept of “do better” is why I’m a pacifist, for example.  I believe …

personal development

Chameleon Personality

One of the biggest flaws I see in self-help books is the desire to self-promote over guide actual improvement of the soul.  Obviously, most people get into this racket for the money, building their name up as a guru, a la Eckhart Tolle or Tony Robbins, so that people think that they need them for …