Category: growth

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My Big Mistake

I don’t know who else has read Carol Dweck’s Mindset, but I can honestly say, of all of the psychology/personal development/self-help books I’ve read in my life, the idea behind this one was probably one of the most impactful, because it elucidated an idea I didn’t even know I had. And I sure didn’t realize …

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Learning

I’m a stubborn prick. Not in a narcissistic, my-way-or-the-highway kind of way, but I have traditionally been a difficult student to teach, when I don’t want to learn. This may sound contradictory to the people who know me, because I can be such a “nice guy”. At times, I’m a coward about a lot of …

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Process And Expansion

I have a tendency to cripple myself by taking on too much. When I was young, I saw my genius spreading out like a spark in a void that fuels a new big bang, to eventually encompass all that is. Grandiose, sure, but that wasn’t hyperbole. I assumed that it was possible to actually convert …

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Cortisol

I got 80 in biology in grade 9. That sounds decent, but even though I may later have gotten worse marks in other things, I would label biology my worst subject. I could never have been a doctor or a vet. It’s not that viscera bothers me. I went weirdly serene when my daughter split …

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Perfect Imperfection

I’ll admit to struggling with this, but man, this is a powerful realization: imperfection is better than perfection. Maybe it’s our upbringing, looking up to a perfect god or the ideal man of politics or business or some fancy celebrity. Maybe it’s the self-help explosion of the last century or so. Maybe it’s always been …

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Chronic

I used to lie all the time. Like most male idiots, I embellished my sex life, my prowess, my intelligence and my general level of overall cool. Ten years of hard lessons has taught me that’s a terrible fucking idea. I used to have difficulty owning up to my mistakes. It’s still an unfortunate first …

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You’ve Got To Be In It

I was reading Thomas Sterner’s follow-up to a personal favourite of mine, The Practicing Mind, purported to be the more practical edition, and I came across an idea that stuck with me. The story centred around a golfer who had a tendency to self-destruct if she put too much pressure on herself. She spiralled into …

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Getting Back On Track

It’s been a learning process these past few weeks. I’ve tried to live with a sort of internal guidance program that focuses on a few key things in order to stay on track. Play with presence, with focus, with a heavy bent toward growth of any kind, combined with a strong desire for absolute freedom …

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Benign Gurus

I know there’s worse people in the world than self-help gurus. The sitting administration of the United States of America, with its xenophobia and corruption, for example. And purportedly, self-help gurus are trying to help people live better lives. So as much as we’d like to label the worst of them con men and move …