Tag: behaviour

growth

Acceptance

When I accept, I can change. That’s the old mantra.  The worst part about mantras like this is that they become trite.  They get disconnected from their meaning.  They become words, detached from experience in spite of their relative truth. We don’t change what we refuse to accept about ourselves.  That is true.  If I …

depression

Penultimate Exorcism

As I finish the last touches on the final draft of Dead Talker, and get it ready to prep for a final manuscript tomorrow to be sent out, I have to wonder. How far did this go in exorcising a few demons? Was it an exercise in wallowing, or did it help me face the …

awareness

Gradual Truth

I read somewhere that the truth dazzles gradually. It seems apparent that this is only a half-truth in itself, but it does ring true with my concept of the truth earworm, and that a perspective rooted in reality inevitably spreads. I’ve worked with a number of people that had “impeccable” reputations.  They were looked up …

politics

Patience, Part 2

Maybe it’s because I’ve passed forty.  Maybe it’s because I am a combination of stunted growth and half a lifetime’s experience.  I haven’t hardened into a rigid old man yet, but I’m beyond the delusions of youth, where I assume the world can be changed by complaints or good intentions. In real life, call-outs often …

identity

Pre-Defined

I often wonder about the labels we put on ourselves.  I don’t know if this is true in all countries or just most of them, but here in North America, it’s the most common thing in the world to identify ourselves by our jobs. It’s almost immediate.  Reactionary. “What do you do?” is as common …

education

Unlearn

It’s really easy to say that we are all responsible for all of our choices and actions.  That the words that come out of our mouths, and the thoughts that roll around inside of our head are the result of our own decision making. And it’s not wrong.  It’s true. But there’s a caveat.  That …

personal development

Prediction Or Hindsight

I’ve read a lot of self-help books.  Some are better than others, but one thing most of them have in common is that they tend to tout the achievements of their past as the indicators of their essential guruhood. Some just give a simple statement of credentials.  Others repeatedly drill the lessons they learned from …

growth

Accountability

Why is accountability so scary?  Are we so cowed by the nature of our reality that we actively delude ourselves by any evasion necessary to avoid being responsible for our own behaviour? And we are responsible for our own behaviour.  No, I don’t need to feel guilty over stupid shit I did when I was …

joy

Joy

Every action by every person in all of history was done in order to bring more joy into their lives. Controversial statement, maybe. It has a caveat though.  Despite the fact that everything we do, we do to be happy, there’s a very key point that makes that statement make sense. We really, really suck …

communication

Silence Versus Surplus

Apparently, I talk a lot when I’m drunk. At least, that’s what my sister tells me.  I call it my post-lubrication self, when all the thoughts that I wisely (or repressingly?) censor during the day come out. I rarely regret saying them, but much of the time it’s nonsense.  Nonsense that makes me laugh or …