Tag: growth

happiness

Bliss

It’s always been my belief that there is only one actual driver of human behaviour, although it manifests in a myriad of different sub-motivations. I believe that every human action is driven by the desire to reach a state of total bliss. From sex to suicide, from the pursuit of power and the power of …

culture, Uncategorized

Accept / Reject

I’ve been thinking a lot about determination and reactionism, if that’s a word. I think we’re all pretty aware of how history tends to repeat itself within families and culture. The abusive, alcoholic parent whose children also end up abusive drunks, that sort of thing. In a less grim vein, think of the woman who …

happiness

The Goal (Or Not)

What I’m searching for is bliss. Fully present, fully focused, live in it, grow in it, bliss. And not as an end goal, because that is a fallacy and a fool’s errand, not to mention unrealistic. I used to think, like most people, that happiness is an achievable place in time, an end point, a …

depression

Depression Identity

It’s easy to let the negative parts of your life become your identity. Addict. Victim. Crazy person. Bitch. Loser. Depressed. I do and have suffered from depression since I was in my pre-teens. Sometime around the time where what I was being told was good and right stopped lining up with what made sense or …

depression

Non-Conformity

I am a terrible non-conformist. I don’t mean that I’m an inveterate or incorrible non-conformist, though that’s what I’d really love to be, but rather, I’m bad at it. For all the punk rock on my iPod (yes, I still have one) and all my literary heroes coming primarily from either the counter-culture or genre …

culture

Crudity/Comedy

I’ll admit. I’m a fan of crudity in comedy. I’m not a fan of insult comedy, but I’ve always been of the mind that it’s better to laugh than cry. Overt bigotry isn’t funny to me, but pointing out someone’s foibles can be, as long as it’s not done from a sense of ignorance. Pointing …

depression

Depression, On Fire

When it comes to writing about depression, the words won’t come. I don’t know what it is, but writing honestly about depression induces writer’s block in me. It’s not something I talk about with others very often, or at all, but it’s been an old friend since I first learned God wasn’t real, and that …

growth

Benign Gurus

I know there’s worse people in the world than self-help gurus. The sitting administration of the United States of America, with its xenophobia and corruption, for example. And purportedly, self-help gurus are trying to help people live better lives. So as much as we’d like to label the worst of them con men and move …

business

Field Of Dreams Is Bullshit

I am a failed businessman. I hate to say it, but it’s true. I can visualize all the systems, all the theory, all the necessary behavioural needs to make real leaders and motivated, happy employees. I’ve fought those battles in big businesses and small, made the mistakes that I had to learn from and I …